Spanking or Over the Knee is one of those simple overlooked activities for a scene. To me it offers an intimate connection, a more controlled impact experience, and the opportunity to explore vunerablility.
A good scene starts with a warm up, a slow caressing of the ass, progressively turning into a heavier massage. This helps relax, build trust and blood flow to the area. It also creates a bit of arousal, a lovely state to start any impact scene. Next comes the slow rhythmic open handed slaps, that merge into massages. Once warmed up your bottom can start taking the heavier blows. Think of it as music, with a slow build up to crescendo. Having music playing that goes along with your rhythm is a great idea as well. At some point, the really heavy, fast blows come. After a hard hit, take the time to let the bottom process, slowly caressing the area before starting in again. I also enjoy unexpected hits outside the area, like thighs, or upper back. I may also press my body against their's to ground them and dominate them. A slow wind down includes and ends with gentle rubs and caresses. And ends with whatever aftercare was negotiated.
I had a lovely time at a party last night, meeting new people who are on the milder side of the kink scene. I'd refer to them as the sex positive burner crowd. They were very friendly and inviting. I talked with a beautiful lady with white blonde hair and asked if she wanted a spanking. I had no toys with me since I was there with a date. We went out on the rooftop. It was full of beds and benches. An inflatable pool with not water was set up and was being used as a cuddle corner. I escorted my bottom to a bench and started my negotiation. She seemed a bit surprised at my thoughtfulness at making sure I understood her limits, I asked whether sexual contact was permitted, and how much. And her safewords.. But as our first time together, I knew I was not going to go full force.
I always start any impact with a warm up... usually a tender massage to the area, then a build up to a more aggressive kneading of the flesh... Rubs, and squeezing followed by more gentler caresses. It creates tension while also building a connection with your partner. "I am here to give you pleasure if I want, but don't forget I am here to inflict pain. Give in at this moment and let me lead the way". This is the message any good impact scene should send.
After the warm up was a combination of light but rhythmic spanks, followed by very aggressive poundings. Then the assertive and dominating pressing of my whole body against hers, This is to help her slow down and process the more heavy blows, It also lets her know I am there on top, Don't try to runaway.. You are mine..
If was a fun little scene.. and reminds me you don't always need a whole toy bag to have a good kink scene.
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